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    Filed at 1:58 pm under by dcobranchi

    Here’s a follow-up to Chris’s Drunks Against Mad Mothers post. MSNBC is pushing the neo-prohibitionist line:

    Law # 8:
    Have Zero Tolerance for Substance Use

    Any substance use (drugs and/or alcohol) is substance abuse. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. It’s illegal, dangerous, addictive, and has absolutely no place in your family. Learn the signs and symptoms of use and how to keep your children substance free. If you don’t take a stand, how can they?

    …Be a good role model. Don’t do drugs yourself. I don’t care that it’s “only marijuana” — it’s illegal, addictive, and a lousy way to bring up your kids. If you drink alcohol, do so responsibly… Consider abstaining from alcohol yourself — you may be surprised at how nice life is when you are consistently sober.

    No. Use is not abuse. Irresponsible use is. Is it possible for kids to responsibly use alcohol? Absolutely. In the home under parental supervision and with proper intent there’s nothing wrong with it. I drink about a 6-pack a year. Still, I have let Anthony try a sip of beer. Why? Because he was curious and I’d rather him sate that under my eye than in the woods with his friends (not surprisingly, he didn’t like the taste). Same goes with wine. Liquor will wait for a long time. It’s too easy to mix up sweet drinks that mask the taste of the grain; no use in tempting fate.

    Finally, this should all be left up to parents. The government should not be able to step in and tell me how, when, and where to introduce my kids to alcohol. Of course, they try to anyway.

    7 Responses to “DAMM!”

    Comment by
    September 19th, 2004
    at 6:41 pm

    Is it child abuse yet to give your kids hot cocoa? There’s caffeine in it, ya know.

    Comment by
    Daryl Cobranchi
    September 19th, 2004
    at 8:24 pm

    Don’t get me started on caffeine. My two oldest love cappuccino. It’s the only way we can get them to drink milk.

    Comment by
    Skip Oliva
    September 19th, 2004
    at 9:11 pm

    According to some anti-food lawyers, it is child abuse to give kids soda…

    Comment by
    September 19th, 2004
    at 11:43 pm

    Giving children alcohol is not a problem for most parents as long as they’re supervising. My parents started giving me wine and beer to drink from the age of two and a half (on special occasions like birthdays and Christmas). It has had no detrimental effect on me, and I’ve been drunk a lot less than most of my friends. And I gave up alcohol completely before I turned 18 (much to Mum+Dad’s horror).
    Use is not abuse, abuse is abuse.

    Comment by
    September 20th, 2004
    at 9:20 am

    My dad is an immigrant from Hungary, and we frequently had wine with dinner when we were growing up, though though he mixed my portion with water so it wasn’t so strong. I never saw him drunk and didn’t know what it was.

    When I went to school and found that some kids talked about drinking as if it was clandestine and sick drunkenness as if it was fun, I thought of “alcohol abuse” in much the same fashion that anyone else would think of “baked potato abuse” or “pork chop abuse.” Sheesh.

    Comment by
    September 20th, 2004
    at 9:51 am

    Chiming in with a big “me too” here. I was allowed to drink at home under my parents’ supervision. I didn’t need to go to parties and sneak it. It works well. My kids all get tastes when they like. I’ve had to look up Texas law to back me up on this one, to keep from being screamed at for child abuse.

    I think it’s also extremely important to explain to kids that yes, drinking and drug use *feel good.* That’s why people do it. But they need to know the effects of that feeling, what happens in the brain and the body, what price there is to pay. And yes, I treat sugar and caffeine as drugs as well.

    Comment by
    September 23rd, 2004
    at 7:23 pm

    My parents gave up sips of beer, or a small glass of wine at holidays, too. No alcoholics amoung us. 😉

    And in Texas, it’s perfectly legal, even in public, so don’t worry about it, Stephanie. Parents have the legal right to allow their children to drink.